I grew up, like a lot of people, in a body I didn't really know.

Nobody sat me down and talked to me about desire, pleasure, relationships, that my body and pleasure was mine or how to find out what I liked. So I did what a lot of us did: I turned to mainstream porn which is the equivalent of learning about relationships from romantic comedies: not useful and often not grounded in reality.

What followed were years of having a LOT of sex, some of it good, most of it not. I performed for the male gaze and for someone else's pleasure, the way good girls are taught to.

Until I decided to reclaim my body as mine. My pleasure as mine. And that I was going to figure out, really figure out, what I actually enjoyed.

Two decades of learning in real time: through relationships, through mistakes, through heartbreak, through communities that weren't afraid to talk honestly about sex, through the straight world, through queer world, through monogamy, through non-monogamy, through spaces where sex was taboo, through spaces where sex was celebrated. I wore my sexuality in a way that earned me the word slut in my early days, which I learned to reclaim in an embodied way that was centered around my pleasure.

That lived experience, alongside professional training and a decade of facilitating private and group work is what I bring into my work. My practice isn't built solely from a textbook but also encompasses lived experience and everything I've learned in real time: about bodies, about desire, about the gap between the sex we perform and the sex we actually want.

I'm in my forties now, and I feel more empowered as a sexual being each day. I have no intention of letting society dictate what my intimate life should be like, what my body should look like or how I should dress. And I’m here to remind you that you too don’t have to subscribe to a paradigm and scripts that weren’t written for you, regardless of how old you are.

If you grew up without language for your body, without permission to want what you want, or even know what you want, or without anyone who could meet you where you are and this is impacting your relationship to yourself, your Eros and others now, you're exactly who I'm here for.