work with me
WHO DO I work with?
The people who come to me are usually:
Experiencing sex and intimacy as a source of anxiety or dissatisfaction: a place that doesn't quite work, or that they've stopped expecting to.
Going through a life transition and looking to rediscover themselves
People looking to deepen their relationship with their bodies, themselves or their partner(s)
These sessions are for you if:
You have a specific sexual difficulty and you're tired of being told it's "just stress" or "just in your head".
You're capable and articulate in every other room, and you go blank when a partner asks what you actually want.
Sex has become something you manage rather than enjoy. You're not avoiding it exactly, but you're not in it either.
You and your partner love each other and have quietly stopped reaching for each other. Neither of you knows how to raise it.
You've hit a life transition, a divorce, a diagnosis, your forties, a new relationship, and the version of your sexuality you had before doesn't fit anymore.
You're curious about something, non-monogamy, kink, your sexual orientation, and you want to explore it with someone who has lived experience and is qualified in this space.
I work with all genders and identities, and honour the diversity of lived experiences and expressions.
what we can explore
My work is shaped around you and your needs. Topics we might explore together:
Sexual & arousal challenges
Vaginismus
Dyspareunia (painful penetration)
Erectile challenges
Early ejaculation
Difficulty reaching orgasm
Low desire
Mismatched sex drive (libido) in relationships
Genital numbness
Relationship & Intimacy
Desire discrepancy
Navigating ethical non-monogamy
Opening relationships consciously
Attachment styles
Boundary setting and boundary crossing repair
Learning to ask for what you want
Moving out of duty sex or avoidance patterns
Navigating dating
Embodiment & Nervous System
Difficulty feeling sensations in the body
Freeze or shutdown during intimacy
Performance anxiety
Shame around desire
Religious or cultural conditioning
Reconnecting to pleasure
Building erotic confidence
Identity & Exploration
Queer identity exploration
Late-in-life sexual awakening
Tantra and Neo-tantra exploration and practices
Starting your kink journey, navigating kink dynamics, exploring your desires in these realms
Erotic self-discovery
Deconstructing sexual scripts
what does a session look like?
We start by talking. Where you are, what's going on, and what you want to be different. In a first session, this includes a thorough conversation about your history, your relationships and your body, so I understand what we're working with. This is the assessment that shapes everything after it.
Then we work with what comes up, in one of three ways. One pillar of sessions is education: I'll explain what's actually happening in your body or relationship, using current research on arousal, desire and the nervous system, so something you've been treating as a flaw makes sense. Another pillar is the stories: we identify the beliefs you've absorbed about sex, your body and what you're allowed to want, and we work on replacing the ones that are running the show. The last pillar is the somatic: guided practices, body awareness, sensation and movement, nervous system regulation. This approach allows for the change to happen in your body and not only in your understanding.
You leave with something to practice. Every session ends with a specific practice or task for the time between sessions. That's where most of the change happens.
Throughout, you set the pace. I'll always tell you what I'm suggesting and why before we do it, and you can say no or stop at any point.
Sessions do not include any genital touch. Where a somatic practice involves touch, it's clothed, explained in advance and always optional. Anything that involves genitals is given as homeplay practice to explore in your own time.
sessions
Intro session
An introductory session to explore your intention.
This is where we begin.
This is where we begin. We talk through your history, what's going on now and what you want to be different, and I share my initial read on what's happening and how I'd approach it. You'll leave with a clear plan, whether or not you continue.
90 minutes
Individual - $220 | Couple - $300
CASUAL sessions
For adhoc support.
One-off work on a specific topic: preparing for a conversation, stregthening boundaries, education on a specific topic.
This is only for people who have hqd an intro session with me before.
60 minutes
Individual - $150 | Couple - $220
PACKAGED SESSIONS
For people ready to make a real change.
Packages and Programs
Lasting change in how you experience your body, sex and intimacy doesn't happen in a session. It happens over time, in sessions but also in the weeks between sessions, when you practice, notice what shifts and adjust.
My programs are built around that and are tailored to your specific needs.
*Attending with a partner (Listed as Couple above)
Partner sessions work in the same way, with one difference: the focus is on what's happening between you, not only within you. That includes desire discrepancy, how you talk (or don't) about sex, opening a relationship, repairing after boundaries have been crossed… Both people set the pace, and nothing is required of either of you that you haven't agreed to. I work with couples and with people in non-monogamous relationships of any structure.
Frequently Asked Questions
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I am not a trained psychotherapist or psychologist. My work can be complementary to their modalities.
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Sessions are held on zoom.
Some sessions with long term clients may be in person (Melbourne, Australia) when needed.
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Not at all. Curiosity is enough. Many people come simply to understand themselves better or to reconnect with pleasure after a period of disconnection.
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It’s not uncommon. We live in a sex negative culture which can make talking about sex feel scary. We move at your pace in sessions. And I love talking about bodies and the erotic realms where you are welcome just. as you are!
