Who AM I?
I'm Velvet Lilith, somatic sexologist and guide to your most unapologetic self.
I work with people who are ready to stop performing sexuality and start embodying it. People who sense there's something deeper, wilder, more honest waiting beneath the scripts they've been handed.
My practice is a space where your journey gets to be messy, curious, evolving. Where scripts lose their grip and your body becomes the authority. Where experiencing pleasure is a learnable skill.
My work is rooted in sex-positivity, nervous system awareness, and the deep belief that pleasure is not a luxury, it's a birthright.
This work is for you if you're ready to explore what sexuality feels like when it's truly yours.
my background
My practice is the result of my journey through the embodied and the sacred.
With roots in somatics, somatic sexology, bodywork, energy healing, shamanic practices, my work is grounded in the intelligence of the body and the unseen layers that shape our experience of self and other.
I’ve studied Shakta and Shaiva Tantra lineages, as well as sacred sexuality and neo-Tantra, blending ancient pathways with modern modalities and philosophies. My facilitation is informed by years of study and practice across diverse modalities from devotional ritual to trauma-informed somatic work, from the soft power of touch to the wild pulse of Eros.
Though my work draws from sacred traditions, it’s grounded, down-to-earth, and made for all people, not just spiritual seekers, but anyone longing to feel more alive, embodied, and empowered.
Over the past decade, I’ve guided countless workshops, group and private transformational spaces, crafting immersive experiences that honour sovereignty, shame resilience, eros and the full spectrum of human expression.
qualifications
studies
Relationships, intimacy, and sexuality - The Sexual Integration Institute, Institute of Somatic Sexology, Bonnie Bliss, Betty Martin, Esther Perel, Cindy Darnell, Jack Morin, Jaiya, Brenee Brown & more
Embodiment, Somatics - Michaela Boem, Peter Levine, The Embody Lab
Tantra - Hareesh Wallis, Uma Neave & more
Neo Tantra - Tantra is Love, Luna Agneya, Barbara Carellas, Taste of Love & more
Kundalini Yoga - Brett Larkin, Samadhi Yoga Ashram
Kink - Colette Pervette, Electra Bond, Anne O’nomis, Lee Harrigton, various educators at AssFest, Oz Kinkfest workshops intensive, Studio of Secrets, 7daysofdomination & more
Certifications
Integrative Sex Coaching and Sex Education - The Sexual Integration Institute (currently completing)
Somatic Sex Coaching - Institute of Somatic Sexology
Sensual Embodied Dance Facilitator - Holly Wodetzki
Pranayama breathwork facilitator - Breath of the Heart
Kundalini Yoga YTT - Samadhi Yoga Ashram
Temple Style Lomi Lomi therapist - Christina Martin
Womb & Fertility Massage Therapy™ - Carol Jones
Circle Facilitator - The Global Sisterhood
Sacred Space Facilitator (Shamanic practice framework) - Sharon Bolt
Reiki Level 1, 2, Master - Alicia Casillas, Poppy Om Chi Reiki, Jeremy OCarroll
The Shakta Path - Ritual and Ceremony - Breath of the Heart, Uma Neave
Closing of the Bones Ceremony - Sophie Messager
The Four Seasons Journey - School of Shamanic Womancraft (Jane Hardwick Collins)
Women’s Health and Wellness Coach - Wellness College (currently completing)
Contact ME.
thevelvetlilith@gmail.com
0485 839 465