TMI

Where we get to talk about the things we've been taught we shouldn't (There will be discussions between the host and experts, Q&As, a panel discussion and story time)

There are conversations we've been taught to whisper, swallow, or skip entirely. TMI is where they finally get said out loud, in an environment that welcomes and supports them. In a culture where there is still so much taboo about bodies, sex and relating, TMI is the breath of fresh air you didn’t know you needed.

This event is dedicated to conversations with people who talk about these topics for a living, and then the floor comes to you to ask the questions you maybe never dared to ask or about what you’d want to know more about in the realms of the topics of the night.

Our speakers:

Kaggi Valentine is a Somatic Sex Educator, Pelvic Care Specialist (STREAM) & Interactive Erotic Educator (IEE) who loves to honour and listen deeper to the wisdom held within the body. An experienced & sensitive bodyworker and she loves working with both the ANS, genital mapping & pelvic centred care, with a particular emphasis on working with both physical & unseen (emotional) scars. She’ll be sharing wisdom about anal pleasure.

Evie & Axel are a real-life couple who work together as an escort duo. As a real couple offering intimacy services together, they are able to create a safe, playful and judgement-free space for unique sexual experiences and honest conversations about intimacy and connection. Through their work, they are committed to educating clients on sexuality, intimacy and emotional wellbeing, and to support people on their journey to connect with their authentic selves. In this role, they aim to challenge stigma and shame around sexuality, and to help people develop healthier relationships with their bodies and minds. This is what they will be sharing about at TMI.

Each conversation is followed by your questions. Then all speakers will join me on stage for an open panel discussion.

This is a one of a kind opportunity to get to hear from experts in their field share openly and answer your burning questions. There will also be time to mingle and make new friends or have more TMI conversations :)

Your host

I’m Velvet Lilith, a Certified Somatic Sexologist, Intimacy and Relationship Coach and Sex Educator who's passionate about breaking down the stigma around bodies, sex and relating. I hold private sessions, workshops and events to support a shame resilient and sex positive paradigm.

Story time

Another juicy part of the night, and the part that's up to you.

We're opening the mic for a few of you who want to share a moment where intimacy was awkward at the time but has become a hilarious story worth telling. The mishap. The unexpectedly tender bit. The thing that had you mortified then and has you laughing now. The story that's a little TMI, which is exactly why it belongs here.

The point isn't performance. It's the sound of a room full of people going “oh thank goodness, me too!” or “OMG this is gold, do you!”. Where we get to laugh together, with each other and not at each other. Have a story to share? Email velvet@velvetlilith.com to discuss. You get a free entry for sharing your story.

Prefer not to stand up? There'll be cards on the night, write yours down and I'll read it out, no name attached.

A gentle note: this isn't the space for difficult or painful experiences. Those stories matter enormously and deserve a room built to hold them properly, this one is built for the light, the funny, the awkward and the wonderfully human.

When is the event?

Thursday 26 November. Doors open at 6:30pm and the talks will start at 7pm sharp.

Where will the event be held?

We're partnering with Wheat, Wine and Whisky for this event, a fantastic venue hosting a diversity of events in line with the ethos of this event. They serve delicious drinks and food which we encourage you to enjoy during the night and will be posting a menu on the event page so you know what to expect.

Who is it for?

Anyone who's ever googled something at midnight rather than ask a person out loud. Anyone who's wondered is this normal and had nowhere to put the question. Anyone quietly tired of the silence around all of it. Anyone who's curious, ashamed, excited and everything in between about all things intimacy and relationships related.

You can sit at the back and say nothing all night. That's a completely valid way to be here.

This is an 18+ event.

This event is welcoming of anyone who's curious about the themes explored. Respectful behaviour towards all speakers, venue staff and attendees is expected. Anyone failing to honour this agreement will be asked to leave, will not receive a refund and not will not be welcome at any of my future events.

Seats are limited on purpose.

Any questions? Email thevelvetlilith@gmail.com