What turns you on?

A workshop for the erotically curious

We all have things that turn us on, some we embrace and celebrate, some we keep tucked away, and some we don’t quite understand... yet.

Turned On is a workshop inviting you to explore your unique erotic wiring with curiosity and non judgement.

Rooted in the work of psychotherapist Jack Morin (The Erotic Mind), we’ll unpack the themes, emotions, and experiences that shape your arousal and how things like taboo, longing, and even shame can amplify your turn-ons.

Whether your desires feel crystal clear or confusing, this is a space to get to know them more deeply knowing you don’t need to fix, justify, or share more than you want to.

What We’ll Explore:

  • How your erotic imagination was shaped by your life story

  • The emotional flavours hidden inside your fantasies

  • Ways to transform shame into curiosity

  • More insights into what turns you on

What We’ll Explore:

  • Somatic memory drop-in to connect with past erotic experiences

  • Journaling and guided inquiry

  • Optional pair and group exercises (always opt-in)

  • Tools for self-reflection, compassion, and erotic self-understanding

This workshop is for you if:

  • You feel like you’re resorting to scripts in your sexual life and aren’t sure what actually turns you on

  • You’re curious about the why behind what turns you on

  • You want to meet your desire with less shame and more understanding

  • You love personal growth through a sensual or erotic lens

Open to all genders, orientations, and experience levels.
You do not need to be partnered or “sexually active” to attend.
This is a clothed, non-touch-based workshop.

About your facilitator

I’m Velvet Lilith, sensual provocateur, shame disruptor, and devoted guide into the realms of embodied pleasure.

I create spaces where Eros is not something to hide, but something to honour.

As a facilitator, I hold immersive workshops, retreats and Temples of erotic connections that invite people into deeper relationship with their bodies, boundaries, and desires. These spaces are crafted to feel both playful and profound, where curiosity is celebrated, consent is foundational, and every part of you is welcome.

As a mentor, I support people to peel back the layers of shame, cultural conditioning, and internalised 'shoulds', so they can discover who they are when nothing is being performed or repressed.

My work is rooted in sex-positivity, nervous system awareness, and the deep belief that pleasure is not a luxury, it's a birthright.

I'm not here to tell you how to be erotic.
I'm here to help you remember that you already are.

What people have said about velvet’s events

“Velvet is a powerful facilitator who creates an encouraging and safe space. The growth & insights from her workshop have stayed with me and deepened my self-awareness.”

“The experience was both healing and empowering, leaving me feeling more connected to myself and others. It was a reminder of the beauty of vulnerability and the power of authentic connection.”